Casual Comeback

Well, let's just say I was in a coma from Jan 2016 till Dec 2017. So, just awaken from the dead , this is a new me , ready for a fresh start in 2018.

Everything is gonna be new as me and hubby and kids are going on a journey to explore the world of learning without school. Let the world be our school as we enjoy our day to day activities with our two lovely bundle of joys. 

2 years of school was enough to make me understand that I am not passing any knowledge to D1. The whole year, he doesn’t understand a thing thought in class (well, coz it’s in BM). Then one month before finals, I teach him how to score points; how to answer the questions in the exam with the right keywords so that he will get the points. And I make him get all A’s for BM, BI, Maths n science. Just by teaching how to answer as per teachers marking scheme and A is confirmed.... I was like “what knowledge exactly I am giving D1? I did this my whole life - learning to score points by answering as per teachers marking scheme and after donkey years , we are still doing the same thing. ”

Ok, after 2 years, I realised, there’s no point in complaining about the system but I am not doing anything about it.... so me and Hubby decided , WE ARE NOT TREES to just sit there, so we are WALKING RIGHT OUT OF IT.....

GOODBYE SCHOOL... HELLO WORLD... 😁

This is what you get from bored kids... houses built from scratch .. own design.... random blocks ... no manuals, no sampes whatsover.... just pure creativity unleashed... the WORLD is our school ... let the kids explore it....WE ARE GOING TO LEARN A LOT FROM THE KIDS .

D1's house

D2's house

Happy Parenting... Just a thought

Many have asked if I have ever experienced stress in my life. Especially after I left my job to be at home with my babies. Actually many relatives pose this questions and not my friends as most of my close friends are SAHM and the ones that are not are willing to give up their seat at work to be at home. Those who ask are usually the ones who think its stressful to be around kids. I think it's natural for some to feel that way. Not everyone enjoys a daily routine of dirty dishes, loads of laundry, krazy kids, haywire house, not forgetting cleaning and cooking and by the time hubby gets back, you have to magically transform it to a happy home. 

On a side note, I NEVER liked kids, but I fell in love with both my kids the day they were born.

I did not think twice to be SAHM. I enjoy the chaos everyday. I enjoy the time I get to spend alone with my kids. I can't find a single reason to be stressed. If they spill a drink, they learn to clean up. If they wanna play in the sand at the beach, I join and throw sand on them. If they paint their fingers, i join them and paint their faces. 

If they break something, I take my time to explain to them why they should not do such things. Of course, it takes a lot of time and patience and they dont learn it straight away. But what do I have to lose by doing that? My time? I have loads of time for my kids. 

I want happy kids, not kids who learn that hitting is the best way to be understood. Do we hit an adult when they accidentally break something of ours? No, we don't. Then why do we hit someone smaller than us who cannot defend themselves? Are we becoming bullies? 

I am no guru in Happy Parenting. I am most definitely not trying to teach anyone anything but I just thought of starting a page about this....maybe in not-so-near future.

 I am a very calm, patient, super positive person who has a very strong mind (I believe I can achieve anything with my mind). I don't know how to get angry or scold people and people who know me will definitely agree. Oh yes my hubby will agree too, he has never seen me angry and he has never heard me nag.( Or maybe I never had to nag him because he is such a darling who always lets me have my way.) I think I am like this because my parents brought us( me and bro) the happy parenting way. Not like there was a way to follow, but looking back, I realised I had a happy childhood , I enjoyed it, we got things our way and learned only when things go wrong.

Is that Happy Parenting? I don't know, but I most definitely enjoyed every single bit of my growing up years. It is not like I never fell down, but whichever path I took was my decision and my parents always supported me. If it was a wrong path, I was lead to learn to overcome the problem and was never made to feel that I made a wrong decision. 

I turned out to be a very happy child and a happy being. So if this is Happy Parenting, then I would want to do the same.

Ok then, time to sign off...Till I get the time to start a page on Happy Parenting... If ever such a time comes.